How to look better at 75 than 50?
It’s in the eyes!
I looked around the table at 12 older women in a low income subsidized residence building last week.
At first I saw the posture, revealing or signaling a range of attitudes — from hunched helplessness to ramrod pride.
Then I noticed the mouths – frowning as though it was the normal state for that mouth. Or open in wonder, ready to laugh. Or tightly shut — perhaps so not to let the wrong words out. These mouths had worn this frame for decades.
Hair styles or scarves –one even in a shower cap – can’t escape notice.
But what really told the story was the eyes.
The hooded, half closed ones that seemed to stop just behind the pupil with no visible interest in the present.
The crinkly, smiley ones that looked with obvious seeing.
Those smiling eyes moved with the moment. they revealed curiosity.
After studying aging – and why some people seem to age so well and others not for nearly two decades, I’ve learned the key to successful aging: it’s curiosity! The curious stay flexible in mind and spirit. They look beautiful because they are looking at you.
Bea Rosenbaum at age 86
Mrs. Singh – Udaipur India
Here are some of my favorite beautiful women pictures.
he doesn’t ask for much — but…
So I now know what it means to be a family “caregiver” – which is a silly word because families always care for one another even in perfect health. Nonetheless, it has particular meaning when applied to an invalid – sudden or chronic. And wow – shredding up a quadricep while getting off a camel in Mongolia was sudden and unexpected! Makes for a great story, but also fascinating insights into the world of disconnected or connected medical support and the adaptive technologies and aidsneeded. Lots has been written about this – but I see it through the prism of my work in getting elders online. As my adorable husband — whose quadricep was shredded – -maneuvers walker and cane up the many steps of our house, wearing a full leg fixed brace for months, he doesn’t ask for much – not pills, not pillows, not pets – all he wants is his iPad! That connects him to the real world and business as usual.
Think about life without connectivity next time you are researching schedules, ordering supplies, writing to friends, opening Facebook, checking the weather, browsing a catalog, or watching CNN online.
More than a third of people over age 65 – and far more than that over age 71 – have never used email or the Internet. Some know what they’re missing and others don’t. This little adventure in Nightingale land sure makes me grateful that I have devoted my professional life these past two decades to this cause. Generations on Line is overcoming the barriers of access, skill and intimidation that prevent our oldest and often wisest generations from connecting…..
Stay tuned and we’ll see how it all turns out!